Adding Meaning to the Season of Giving!

I guess it started with the three magi and their gifts of gold, frankincense and myrrh or the miracle of the oil and Chanukah Gelt, or maybe the introduction of St. Nick or Santa Claus or perhaps gifts to celebrate Epiphany or the New Year! Whatever the messages from your past or from the media that stimulate you to think about giving – here are three different ways for you to think about gifts during this season:

The first is to consider your own gifts and to give them freely!  Often we undervalue our own gifts because for us, they are a given; and therefore do not seem to have a lot of value.  If they come by us easily and without struggle, then how much value can they really have?  Doesn’t everyone, after all, have these gifts?  The gift you can give someone of listening, or paying attention to them, or being aware of something that is important to them is a gift that is invaluable.  And the more you offer it, the greater your capacity to give it!

The second to consider is others’ gifts – to appreciate the gifts they offer and give freely without expectations.  Have you ever been disappointed by another person because you expected more of them then they were able to give; and overlooked their real gifts that you appreciated until they took them away by moving or by leaving the relationship or worse, by dying?  Now is the time to acknowledge another for the gifts they bring to you – maybe their laugh, their wisdom, or their listening.  And give up all of those other expectations you have for the person because all the expectations do is to cause you to be unappreciative of what they are really offering to you!

And third, consider giving yourself a new gift this season – the gift of a new way of viewing those around you, their strengths and unique value; a new way of accepting what others offer you – get rid of that pride and say thank you!; and above all celebrate your uniqueness and build on those gifts – and stop diminishing what you offer with your thoughts and your words.

~ Everyone is gifted – but some people never open their package ~ Unknown

~ The greatest gift you can give another is the purity of your attention. ~  Richard Moss

~ A hug is a great gift – one size fits all, and it’s easy to exchange. ~  Unknown

~ They who give have all things; they who withhold have nothing ~  Hindu Proverb

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